Where Abraham’s Kindness Shines

Parashat Vayera 5785.
By Rabbi Freedman.

It’s a story Jewish children learn in Hebrew School, and for good reason. Because the narrative around Abraham caring for strangers by his tent contains a core teaching of what Jewish values look like in action. And as adults, we can understand this on a deeper level. 

Parashat Vayera begins when Abraham rushes out of his tent on a dog-days-of-summer hot day to welcome three strangers. Magnanimous in every way, Abraham offers to bring them a snack and then basically proceeds to serve Rosh Hashanah lunch combined with Thanksgiving dinner. Of the very best food he could offer. This demonstrates Abraham’s signature value of hospitality, Hachnasat Orchim, which has since been part of Jewish spiritual DNA.

There is a small detail I want to look at closely. Before Abraham offers them food, he says “Yukach Na Me’at Mayim V’Rahatzu Ragleichem V’Hi’sha’anu Tachat Ha’Etz. Let a little water be brought, wash your feet, and recline under the tree” (Gn. 18:4). Recall that on a hot desert day, water is more precious than money. And here Abraham wants to give invaluable water to the strangers…to wash their feet. Why? The Pshat, simple, interpretation is what the Etz Hayim Humash says: “Water for bathing one’s feet was a much-appreciated comfort to travelers with their sandal-like footwear and the pervasive dust of the roads.” This fits with Abraham’s sincere generosity. 

Notice that Abraham doesn’t ask any questions of the travelers, like who they voted for, as it were. If there is one thing that was for certain, these men are not Jews. Impossible, for only Abraham’s family are Jewish. But this religious distinction –  which is central to Abraham – falls second to their shared humanity.

Here is what Rashi says about why Abraham washed their feet, a Drash, creative interpretation: Abraham believes these are men who worshiped idols on the ground, and he is strict not to allow any idolatry into his house. In other words, he has serious religious differences with them. The water isn’t to make them physically comfortable – like a moist towelette for their feet. The water makes Abraham emotionally and spiritually comfortable by washing away all traces of idolatry. But not even polytheism stops Abraham from reaching out to the travelers. If Abraham can be a good neighbor to these travelers with profoundly different worldviews – then we should too. 

This verse also inspires a Midrash quoted by the Etz Hayim Humash: “God promises Abraham, ‘As you brought a little water to My emissaries, I will give your descendants water in the desert. As you brought them bread to eat, I will sustain your descendants with manna for 40 years. As you gave them shade under a tree, I will give the Israelites  a cover of clouds to protect them from the desert sun.’” In other words, the kindness Abraham offers the strangers boomerangs to directly benefit Abraham’s future offspring. Then and now, kindness begets kindness.